It's no secret that dating can be difficult, but did you know that there is a mathematically proven best way to date? In a 1966 paper published in the Journal of the American Statistical Association by John Gilbert and Frederick Mosteller they described a solution to a problem known as the "beauty contest problem". I'll describe the problem in my own words so it's relatable:
Suppose a girl is looking for someone to date and eventually marry, and suppose she wishes to choose the best mate. She must choose one man out of an unseen and unknown number of men. The men are presented to her, to see, one at a time in a random order, and she must choose or reject a man when he appears. Once she chooses, she will see the rest that she passed on, and she will be disappointed if her date is not the best. How can she pick the best man from the lot?
I'm assuming this sounds very familiar to both the men and women out there. I decided to use a girl in the description since we all know that girls are the ones that choose
In the paper, Gilbert and Mosteller prove that the optimal strategy is to "reject the first 37% of all the candidates, and then select the first candidate who is better than any previous candidate". They prove, mathematically, that you will choose the best of all possible candidates on average about 37% of the time. In plain English this means that a girl would have to reject the first 37% of all men she meets regardless of how great they are, and then choose the first man she meets that is better than any (not all) of the previous men she rejected.
You're probably thinking that a 37% chance isn't very good odds, but Gilbert and Mosteller prove that there are no other strategies that you can consistently follow that will increase your odds. That means their proposed solution is the best strategy to find your perfect match.
Depending on where you live you need to accurately estimate how many potential husbands you'll meet throughout your life. If you live in a small town maybe it's 10. That means you'd need to reject the first 4 men and the marry the first one that is better than any of the 4 you dated before. If you live in a larger city like New York or London things get a little tricky. Let's say that in a large city you're likely to meet 100 men that are husband material. That means you'd have to reject the first 37 men no matter how great they were.
In order to determine how "great" a candidate is you'd have to get to know all about them -- the good, the bad, and the ugly. This is required even though you're going to reject the first 37. That means you'll have 37 relationships before you can even consider getting married.
From this article in Psychology Today where I found this story they mention that because this strategy is mathematically proven to be optimal, it means that from an evolutionary perspective humans have evolved to use this strategy via natural selection (the best strategy to over time). They add that unconsciously all women should have evolved to reject the first 37% of their estimated number of potential mates, and choose the next best candidate.
So there you have it, the proven best way to date! Now get on Desi Spark and start putting this strategy to work!